Deliver Us From Evil, Part 6
April 5, 2019
One of the biggest doors that people have opened up in their
lives is rejection. This is a spirit
that is part of the family of The Fear of Death, and a companion to The Fear of
Man. It has many tenets to it and
manifests in different ways.
That door can open in a person’s life if they have been
mistreated by a parent during their growing up years, or experienced some
traumatic event at the hands of a friend or relative.
This is a wicked and dangerous spirit because of the chain
reaction it brings in a person’s life, as well as in the lives of people with
whom they directly interact. Some
years ago, I was faced with a certain person in our fellowship in Alaska who
suffered greatly from this spirit.
This person’s case reached a climax in a series of events that directly impacted
Della and me. Following is
transcript of a letter that I sent because this individual would no longer talk
to either one of us.
For obvious reasons, the names have been changed.
Hi, Carol:
Let me say, first of all, that Della and I love you and George very much. Frankly, we are sick and tired of seeing
you get bounced around by evil spirits that have plagued you for years, and we
have determined to share these things with you because we want to see you free. We won’t rest until we see you free once
and for all.
To once again address the issue of the dinner, a lady by the name of Sarah
Charleston had driven over that day, specifically to receive some ministry.
Sarah’s husband, Roger, just passed away a couple of months ago from Lou
Gehrig’s disease (ALS). It was a crushing blow to her and an
emotional crash after months of caring for him and watching him deteriorate from
a healthy man to a skeleton who could barely talk. Topping that off, her mother just passed
away a few weeks ago. She and
her mother have also been very close.
Sarah was needing some personal ministry, and because she and Roger had been
fairly close to Morris and Melanie for several years, she felt the need to just
talk to someone who could be a comfort to her.
Morris and I talked about the situation, and we decided to go to dinner.
It provided a good chance for us all to share in a non-threatening environment.
Besides, we got to celebrate our joint special days together at the same time. We were going to wait until Monday, the
18th, to do our
celebrating, but with Sarah’s coming, it was more appropriate for us to combine
our outing with ministry to Sarah.
The fact that you jumped to conclusions about the evening, and then took offense
at Morris and Melanie, first accusing Melanie of orchestrating this deliberately
to get at you – and then followed it up by taking offense at us – it really
comes down to dealing with a spirit of rejection that you have fought with since
your childhood.
Let’s do a little backtracking.
Carol, from your early childhood, this has been a problem in your life. While it seems more than likely that your
father may also have suffered from rejection in his life, and you have inherited
this spirit from him, it is also true that because of your father’s actions
towards you during your early years, and even in the years of your first
marriage, you experienced what you saw as his rejection of you.
Here’s where the problem comes in.
The spirit of Rejection is a lying spirit.
Its whole existence is to lie, to steal, to kill and to destroy. It first lies to you and tells you that
you were rejected. It follows up
that lie with another lie: that you were rejected because you really aren’t
worth anything. Add to that all of
the false accusations it makes against you, calling you names, belittling you,
your personal integrity, your character, your intelligence, etc., and you have
heaps upon heaps of lies being foisted off on you.
Here’s where your personal choices come into play.
You have the choice of believing these lies, or rejecting them. If you believe them, you accept that
spirit of rejection to yourself.
With that spirit comes spirits of lies, a spirit of false accusation, a spirit
of belittlement – and to top it all – a spirit of self-pity.
A chain reaction begins in your inner being that brings a curse to you; and it’s
a curse that can (and has) stay with you year after year after year.
What began in your youth became compounded in the years that followed. Then there was Peter, and the problems
that came with that relationship.
Next was Kingston. It was an
abominable relationship, but you were determined to prevent yourself from
suffering rejection. When he left,
and you were stuck with two children – both of whom had suffered the same
spiritual DNA – now having inherited the same spirits you were afflicted with,
as well as Peter’s, and Kingston’s – you attempted to claim verses of Scripture
in the false belief that you could see this marriage put back together, and that
God would fix it.
That didn’t happen, and those same lying spirits heaped all the more
condemnation and rejection upon you.
For more than a little time, you blamed God for not fixing things. You held unforgiveness towards Him,
unforgiveness towards Kingston, and unforgiveness towards many others.
You made personal progress when you began to take steps to forgive yourself, and
to forgive Kingston. Nevertheless, a
root of bitterness began to grow in your being.
Nothing much at first, but it was there.
The Lord brought George into your life, and things began to actually go right
for the first time. You experienced
acceptance. You experienced an
unconditional love from George.
Things began to really progress for you.
You took some giant strides forward in your spiritual growth because of your
sense of being accepted and loved.
Unfortunately, this spirit of rejection and its family were still dwelling in
you. Throughout the years, numerous events
have transpired that only made these spirits all the stronger as you gave place
to them.
There was the incident with Morris and Melanie, and your feelings towards
Melanie. That is something that,
although you made an effort to forgive a perceived slight, there was never
complete forgiveness. Many incidents
have occurred in the years since in which those lying spirits have played havoc,
again telling you that Melanie either rejected you, or had some personal problem
with you that she wouldn’t let go of.
Those same lying spirits have accused her to you, and you – unfortunately
– have believed their lies.
It has contaminated your relationship with Morris and Melanie, and
continues to this day to contaminate it.
I’ve heard you say many times that you can have fellowship with Morris, but not
with Melanie. That’s a lie that
comes from those spirits; and I’ll explain why.
Morris and Melanie are one, just like Della and I are one. To suggest that you can have fellowship
with one-half of one, and not the other, simply doesn’t work. Folks who won’t fellowship with Della
certainly have no fellowship with me.
They may talk to me, but there is no fellowship, and anything they have to say
is greeted with a jaundiced ear on my part.
The same is true with Morris and Melanie. If you have a problem with Melanie, and
say you can fellowship with Morris, what is really happening is that you are
talking with Morris, but there isn’t any fellowship. Anything you have to say apart from
Melanie is greeted with a conditioned response.
There is no bond of fellowship with Morris that doesn’t extend to
Melanie, and vice-versa. There is no
bond of fellowship with Della that doesn’t extend to me, and vice-versa. Any suggestion to the contrary is simply
a lie that comes from an evil spirit seeking to divide.
There are the multiple events with Charlotte – and we won’t even get to talking
about Doug. Charlotte inherited
these same wicked spirits that you suffer from.
Naturally, they work overtime between the two of you, seeking to destroy
every vestige of love, compassion, understanding and tolerance towards one
another.
Charlotte feels rejected by you. She
felt rejected by her father. She has
gone through multiple experiences of feeling rejected by would-be husbands and
lovers. So she believes the same lies you have
believed. In the same way that you
have experienced unforgiveness and bitterness because of the lies these wicked
spirits keep telling you, Charlotte now lacks forgiveness and lives with the
same root of bitterness that has literally grown a tree of bitterness in her
life. Doug does as well, although to
a much lesser extent.
Now things have exploded between you and Charlotte to the place that neither one
of you can deal with the other. Both
of you are filled with rejection from each other.
Both of you are filled with bitterness towards each other. Both of you are filled with anger. Both of you are filled with unforgiveness
towards each other.
Your relationship with Doug is barely better.
Then there’s Erin.
One of the problems accompanying a spirit of rejection is a continual effort to
“fix things” by doing things for the person you believe has rejected you. Joyce Meyer recently did a teaching
series on this called, “Approval Addiction.”
This is a perfect example of what this spirit does to folks. They demand approval from friends, from
family, from their peers, from folks in ministry, etc. – and go out of their way
to do things for those whose approval they desire.
In your case, Carol, you have given and given and given to Charlotte, to Erin,
to others – all to the detriment of your own needs and finances, often putting
yourself in a debt situation that stresses you out and stresses George out – all
with the hope of gaining their approval and acceptance. Instead, you’ve created a monster. Charlotte and Erin, Doug to a lesser
extent -- who knows who all else – have come to expect you to do for them, and
when you don’t meet their demands, they cuss you out, walk away from you, say
all manner of evil against you; and you wind up feeling all the more rejected.
You’ve excused your unreal giving by justifying the fact that “these are my
kids, my grandkids, and I have a responsibility to them.” You’re right! You do!
But that responsibility is to stop giving to them. That responsibility is to teach them
responsibility, to stand on their own two feet.
That responsibility is to teach them to be givers – not takers.
Your “approval addiction” has created a monster in your own life. It has led to bitterness, envy, and
non-stop strife. James wrote the
following in his epistle (3:16),
James 3:16: For where
envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.
Carol, this is exactly what you are fighting with.
You have non-stop confusion, and literally every evil work abounds around
you. One thing leads to another, and
another, and another. One spirit
leads to another, and another, and another, until you don’t know whether you are
coming or going. You seek after
God’s blessings, you seek after His prosperity in your life, and yet you see it
all destroyed time after time after time.
You wonder why your relationships with people whom you consider to be your best
friends get messed up. Friends –
true friends – don’t need explanations.
Friends don’t need excuses.
Friends don’t need to explain themselves to each other.
The bond of love in true friendship covers everything. Yet, you demand explanations from people;
you demand apologies for perceived slights; you demand that everyone else make
amends to you – yet it isn’t you that gets the apologies: it’s the evil spirits
in control of you. The result is
that no apology works. You are never
satisfied because it isn’t you needing the apology; it is the evil spirit
driving the demands. Because those
demands are impossible to meet, you can never receive the satisfaction the evil
spirit is demanding in you.
Until you forgive God for not doing things the way you expected Him to respond
in your life (that’s number one), until you forgive your parents (and I know you
think you’ve done this), until you forgive yourself for being such a failure
(and the failure is the result of listening to these lying spirits), until you
can literally forgive every single person you think has offended you, rejected
you, slighted you in some way, AND ask God’s forgiveness for holding bitterness,
unforgiveness, resentment and self-pity; AND THEN until you deliberately kick
out the spirit of rejection, the spirit of unforgiveness, the spirit of
self-pity, the spirit of envy, the spirit of belittlement, AND THE GRANDDADDY OF
THEM ALL, the Fear of Death – until you do these things, Carol, you can NEVER
expect to walk in freedom.
You will continually see your relationships with folks go down the drain. You will see your relationship with the
Lord so contaminated you’ll never be able to discern or hear His voice. You will continue to live a poverty
lifestyle with a poverty mentality because the blessings of the Lord will not
remain in such an environment.
Carol, there is a place in you that loves the Lord.
It isn’t fake. It isn’t put
on. It’s real. The problem is that your relationship
with the Lord is slowly but surely being submerged into oblivion by these wicked
spirits. What happens – and what is
happening – is that as these evil spirits speak out of you, those around you
have the perception that you don’t know the Lord. The reason is because these evil spirits
have taken the place of what should be the Spirit of the Lord speaking out of
you with peace, with love, with forgiveness, with gentleness, with acceptance,
with grace.
What people hear, and in this instance I’m referring to remarks that Charlotte
has made to you, is actually the voice of an unforgiving spirit, a spirit of
belittlement, a spirit that places demands on people, a spirit that requires
performance, a spirit of rejection, a spirit of bitterness. Because those spirits are doing the
speaking out of you, Charlotte says to you – and rightly so – that you don’t
know the Lord.
What she really is addressing is the fact that those spirits don’t have a
relationship with the Lord, and when they are doing the speaking out of your
voice, and you continue to give place to them, you become the identity and voice
of those spirits.
There is still much more of this letter to Carol, and we will continue it next week. I trust that you are seeing the contamination of the Spirit of Rejection.
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Blessings
on you!
Regner A. Capener
CAPENER MINISTRIES
RIVER WORSHIP CENTER
Temple, Texas 76504
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